Twinge of Sadness

November 18, 2012

All My Ramblings, Life in General, Love

I will tell you a story about this dear friend of mine. For her protection (and so she won’t kick my ass for telling the whole world about her story), let me call her Cara. Cara and I have become fast friends ever since I moved to Singapore. She is one great big ball of kinetic energy – always busy, always moving around, but always happy and has this infectious way of passing her vibe to the people around her. It has always seemed to me that she had everything figured out. I can say that much of the positive changes that happened to me in the recent past, Cara had a part in. I saw the world through her eyes, felt the value of passion, and saw there is so much I can look forward to despite even the most dreariest days. Happy Cara. Thank you for inspiring me to be how I am today.

Last month, though, she dropped by my place and this little sunshine of mine just had the heaviest cloud above her. This girl who has given me nothing but strength and encouragement ever since I met her, was feeling so much sadness, feelings of frustration as to why she was how she was, feelings of not being understood and easily given up on by the people she loved the most, a feeling of fear that she has so much and yet nothing of what she really wants. I guess at that point I saw that despite all the strength, confidence and positive energy she exudes, she is after all just human. I realized that just like you and I, Cara is not perfect. She has fears, flaws and a lot of craziness and inconsistencies – one time she feels this, the next time she feels that; one time she loves this, the next time she loves that; one time she has this flawless life plan, the next time she feels her plan is one big hairy audacious crap; sometimes she is the epitome of confidence, other times a roller coaster of emotions and a bundle of insecurity. She is such a mess, but a beautiful and still overall very positive one. A beautiful mess, yes, Jason Mraz must have had you in mind with that song. That day, I felt for her because I could seriously empathize with what she was going thru and I knew all she needed was someone to listen to her, my drama queen for a day. I was not worried about her, though. I knew her strength and how she could be in control of that calm within her despite this phase of turmoil. I knew she just had to let all those kept emotions and those fears out and then bounce right back up and see the sunshine after the rain. And so I was right.

The reason why I shared this story with you is I want to let you know that even the happiest and most positive people you meet in this world have their share of sadness, loneliness and emotional meltdowns. Nobody is perfect, otherwise, this will be one hell of a boring world. If you have pangs of sadness and depression, that is perfectly normal. The question is on how long you will allow yourself to stay in that phase. If you find yourself in that phase, acknowledge it and allow yourself that moment of grief – talk to a close friend, write it on your journal or cry even, if that would help you let it out. It will do you good to let it out. You cannot stay in there for a long time, though. The next step is for you to do something about it so you could bounce back up. Keep in mind that you deserve happiness and sometimes what you have to do is forget about what you feel and remember what you deserve. More readings for you… Your Indestructible Inner Peace.

May your days always be sunny 🙂

© Karen Cornejo, November 2012

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About Karen Cornejo

My name is Karen and I am a true blooded Gemini. I was born in 1981 in the uber chaotic but equally beautiful city of Manila in the Philippines. I have recently relocated to Singapore, where I have been living for over a year now. I currently work as regional sales & marketing manager for a wonderful company that promotes wellness, purpose and abundance through our very unique product – therapeutic-grade essential oils. Since my life-long dream is to live in a beautiful island and do nothing but be happy and write…then might as well start living that dream now. Well, it’s only the writing part of that dream that I can afford at the moment, thus, this blog. Better to have a piece of that big dream than nothing at all! It is also true that I started this blog “because I’m tired of talking to myself.” Writing is my ultimate stress reliever. Most of the time, what I write is what I actually want to tell myself to give myself some needed reassurance that in the end, everything will be alright. I live each day with so much passion and there is nothing more I would want than to share this passion for life with everyone else. So this blog is for you as much as it is for me. I would love to hear from you too. For comments or whatever, feel free to drop me a note at or like my page on Facebook Thank you for reading my ramblings You are awesome! Love, Karen

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2 Comments on “Twinge of Sadness”

  1. Foster Says:

    I often find myself in ‘Cara’s’ situation when I have a bad day. You are a true friend for being there for her in her time of need. Being the source of laughter and joy most of the time often has a dark side to it. When you really need a friend and you’re not supporting others and making them laugh and being busy, it can be lonely. Truly insightful post! Thanks!


    • Karen Cornejo Says:

      Same here. I guess we all have our Cara moments. The important thing is to have people who have the genuine patience and understanding to see you through these heavy times. All the best to you 🙂


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