Have you ever sat down for a moment and took some time to just reflect on the things that have happened to you in the past? I must tell you that this is one of my favorite pastimes and I find it just plain amazing. Do it when you have time. Bring yourself back to memory lane. Recall the people you have met, your past loves, friends you lost, enemies even, loved ones who have passed away, all the joys, pain and heartaches you have been through. Each of those people or each of those experiences has contributed to bringing you to where you are right now.
Looking back, you will see how your life and the lives of other people are interconnected and each connection is for a reason. People come and go but before they leave, you will find that they leave with you something valuable too – something you would not have if your paths did not cross.
Here’s a tip, get a notebook and list down the names of the people you have met and write down something about them that you can be grateful for. Something like… Thank you 1, if not for you I would not have known the value of relationships that not because things did not work out between two people, means they should stop being friends. Thank you too that it is through our common friends that I met 2 who helped clean up my mess and when we broke up led me to meeting 3 who introduced me to the joys of exploring the world. And because I liked 3 and he didn’t like me back, I started dating and met 4 who suffocated me like crazy which led me to grow as a person and figure out what I really want in life.
Personally (that means the above example is hypothetical), I have this prank caller to thank, for if not for him I would not have crossed paths with this beautiful person who is making a difference in my life right now.
So you see, it really is amazing how one thing leads to another and each time it brings you closer to where you need to be. Looking back gives you that “aha” or that “so that’s why” moment that is just so overwhelming and I mean that in a good way. So whenever you are in a shitty situation, know that that will pass and it’s something you have to go through to reach the end goal…your very own nirvana. When you are feeling hopeless or frustrated with how things are going for you right now, just look back. The comfort in knowing that your past is a proof that things will always eventually fall into place is just priceless. Have faith in that.
© Karen Cornejo, August 2012
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