I will tell you a story about this dear friend of mine. For her protection (and so she won’t kick my ass for telling the whole world about her story), let me call her Cara. Cara and I have become fast friends ever since I moved to Singapore. She is one great big ball of kinetic energy – always busy, always moving around, but always happy and has this infectious way of passing her vibe to the people around her. It has always seemed to me that she had everything figured out. I can say that much of the positive changes that happened to me in the recent past, Cara had a part in. I saw the world through her eyes, felt the value of passion, and saw there is so much I can look forward to despite even the most dreariest days. Happy Cara. Thank you for inspiring me to be how I am today.
Last month, though, she dropped by my place and this little sunshine of mine just had the heaviest cloud above her. This girl who has given me nothing but strength and encouragement ever since I met her, was feeling so much sadness, feelings of frustration as to why she was how she was, feelings of not being understood and easily given up on by the people she loved the most, a feeling of fear that she has so much and yet nothing of what she really wants. I guess at that point I saw that despite all the strength, confidence and positive energy she exudes, she is after all just human. I realized that just like you and I, Cara is not perfect. She has fears, flaws and a lot of craziness and inconsistencies – one time she feels this, the next time she feels that; one time she loves this, the next time she loves that; one time she has this flawless life plan, the next time she feels her plan is one big hairy audacious crap; sometimes she is the epitome of confidence, other times a roller coaster of emotions and a bundle of insecurity. She is such a mess, but a beautiful and still overall very positive one. A beautiful mess, yes, Jason Mraz must have had you in mind with that song. That day, I felt for her because I could seriously empathize with what she was going thru and I knew all she needed was someone to listen to her, my drama queen for a day. I was not worried about her, though. I knew her strength and how she could be in control of that calm within her despite this phase of turmoil. I knew she just had to let all those kept emotions and those fears out and then bounce right back up and see the sunshine after the rain. And so I was right.
The reason why I shared this story with you is I want to let you know that even the happiest and most positive people you meet in this world have their share of sadness, loneliness and emotional meltdowns. Nobody is perfect, otherwise, this will be one hell of a boring world. If you have pangs of sadness and depression, that is perfectly normal. The question is on how long you will allow yourself to stay in that phase. If you find yourself in that phase, acknowledge it and allow yourself that moment of grief – talk to a close friend, write it on your journal or cry even, if that would help you let it out. It will do you good to let it out. You cannot stay in there for a long time, though. The next step is for you to do something about it so you could bounce back up. Keep in mind that you deserve happiness and sometimes what you have to do is forget about what you feel and remember what you deserve. More readings for you… Your Indestructible Inner Peace.
May your days always be sunny :)
© Karen Cornejo, November 2012