Don't Lose Yourself

Okay I am sitting on my bed in this beautiful hotel room in Hong Kong and thought of nothing better to do than type a few words. I have been watching this particular friend of mine closely and I hope she won’t mind that this blog is inspired by her.

Have you ever watched people fall in love? It’s funny that no matter how strong or independent a person is, that no matter how solid that person’s hold is on his or her beliefs, dreams, 2-year, 5-year, 10-year plan or whatever, it only takes one other person to change everything. When you think you have everything in place, when you think you have your life in order, when you think you have set yourself up well for independence and that nobody-bug-me stance – well, let me just tell you that barb wires will melt and all high walls will fall down when you fall flat-on-your-face in love.

So for these people, when that happens, it can be quite scary. It’s like losing your grip on everything you have held dear and with utmost strength and confidence, losing control of your life which you have confidently set on auto-drive, going crazy when your once steady cemented path becomes split into 2 or 3 multi-colored, multi-textured roads with God knows what’s up ahead. It’s nerve-wracking because you knew how strong and detached you once were and then all of a sudden your knees feel wobbly because you feel you are walking on fluffy clouds with matching Lisa Frank-colored butterflies circling around you, and a soundtrack that is playing in the background wherever you go and at anytime of the day. It gets so scary that I know some people feel like running away from it early before they fall any deeper and save themselves from some kind of unsolicited renaissance. How could something so beautiful be equally as threatening?

Hmmm…well, I guess don’t run away from it? For all it’s worth, falling in love is pretty exciting and not everyone is blessed with that kind of frenzy. Just remind little old you to not get so intoxicated with that love absinthe so much so that you lose yourself entirely in the process. You may see a lot of couples dominated by just one person all the time with the other person only a mere shadow of the other and that is not fun at all. Do not forget who you are. Do not forget your dreams and the things you loved when you were all by yourself. Your individuality is what attracted love to come into your life in the first place so stay YOU. You don’t need to change everything. Bring everything that you are in the relationship. While adaptability and compromise are good, don’t go beyond the limits that you lose everything that was originally you entirely. It is beautiful when two people in love merge their individual completeness together to form a bigger, more vibrant aura. Create a fusion of unique views, attitudes, interests, dreams, pet peeves and you will see how much more enjoyable everything is.

Well, that was quite relieving Cheers!

© Karen Cornejo, August 2012

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